In families affected by addiction, a phenomenon common to all drug addictions called codependency occurs. It can become a disease itself for the family member. On this page you will find all the necessary information about just what is codependency, what are the profiles that exist, the most common attitudes and behavior patterns that this disease generates as well as the appropriate treatment.
What is codependency?
Codependency is the special relationship that exists between an addict and another subject that somewhat favors the using in some way. The same relationship is not established with all family members. Codependency occurs because the addict’s environment becomes ill along with him. As we have seen in the Stages that the family is going through, the disease progresses over time and affects the closest members of the addict. Each one will carry it in a different way, but there will almost always be someone who develops codependency.
It is the way each one has to live, accept and face the illness of the addict. If that way facilitates the addictive behavior of the patient, it is codependency. Not all family members have to develop it. It is very common in the partner or parent of the addict, whether male or female.
The family member who:
1 – Refuses to accept that your family member is addicted
Deny the problem, even if the addict hits bottom, enters treatment and recovers. Although other family members or professionals present it as a reality. It is usually one of the parents.
2 – Who protects it
They protect the addict, but we could say that in an insane way. That is, they allow its using with complicity. This is not done in a conscious way; It occurs because this family member has come to normalize the symptoms of addiction and makes it easier to continue how things are.
3 – Who overprotects
It is the close person who comes to justify the aberrant behavior of the addict.
4 – Who boycotts recovery attempts?
The person who makes a boycott more or less explicit to the patient’s efforts to get out of his addiction. There is an unconscious desire that the patient does not change. This can be done by criticizing their recovery center, the professionals, speaking badly about therapists or creating needs for the addict to leave his or her center of entry and return home or inventing excuses to abandon treatment, etc.
5 – He who endures everything
Who endures everything the addict does and passes it on – There is generally much suffering in this type of individual.
6 – Who depends on him?
Who comes to depend on him? He has normalized the symptomatology of the addict as his way of being and as his way of life. He has adapted to that suffering.
However, even if you have not become codependent, many attitudes are considered codependent traits. They are not conducive to patient recovery and make it difficult for the addict to control his own life.
There are different behavior patterns:
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